Week 14: Step 4 | Guest Speaker Susie Speaks on First Half of Col. 3: Self Esteem, Pride, Ambition and Security.

Week 14: Step 4 | Guest Speaker Susie Speaks on First Half of Col. 3: Self Esteem, Pride, Ambition and Security. 

This is where I can see how I've been "running the show" (step 3) and how I think people need to behave, what I need people to believe I am, what roles I think people need to play in order for me to be "Okay". See the bottom of page 64 for the 7 areas of self. 

Last we looked at the first 4 areas of 'self' in the 3rd column: Remember...The FEAR is opposite of the role you and others play.

COLUMN 3: Affects my...
Self Esteem: How I see or feel about myself. The role I've assigned myself:
Ex. I am the best wife he could have. (Fear: not good enough)

Pride: This is how I think you and others should feel about me. The role I've assigned others. Ex. Others should see that I'm a great catch. (Fear: being judged)

Ambition: What I want to happen here. Start the sentence with "I want..."
Ex. I want my husband to stop telling me what to do (Fear: not being trusted)

Security: What I need here to be okay Start sentence with "I need...to be ok" Ex. I need to be respected to be okay (Fear: being disrespected)

This week: Complete the first 4 things in the 3rd column on each resentment inventory, as instructed in the BBA on pages 56 & 57. Put BBA page 62 - 63 in Big Book (starting on the bottom of page 66 "We turn back..." to the middle of page 67 "set matters straight".