Week 18: Sex Inventory and Sex Ideal

Prayer: “God, help me see the truth about MY conduct in relationships”. 

SEX INVENTORY:
The Big Book says....”We all have sex problems. We'd hardly be human if we didn't.”. What can we do about them? 

Some of of us don’t believe we have any problems with sex; others believe we have too many and avoid it all together. But this section is not that simple. We review our own conduct over the years  by filling out the two page worksheet in your BBA workbook pages 69 and 70 to get to the truth; perhaps we use sex, perhaps we avoid it. 

Sex Inventory is not so much about the act of sex, as it is about allowing us to see how we conduct ourselves as a member of our Sex: Male or Female. How do I conduct myself as a Spiritual Man or Woman in my intimate relationships? 

This worksheet asked us for a bit of background about the relationship and then it assess some important questions for consideration: 
Where had we been: selfish, dishonest, inconsiderate?
Whom did we hurt? Did we arouse jealousy, suspicion or bitterness?
Were we at fault? What should we have done instead,  if God were a part of this relationship or if we were god-reliant (instead of self-reliant) during the course of this relationship? 

The book tells us to get this all down on paper and look at it. Take a good look. Can I see my motives for being in these relationships?

SEX IDEAL:

How would you, ideally, conduct yourself in future relationships as A God-reliant man or woman? We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity and for strength to do the right thing. We accumulate the answers and number nine of our sex inventory worksheet and compose all of them into a few paragraphs describing how we believe God would have us conduct ourselves in relationships today - and in the future.  How would we like to be more honest and our conduct? What are some ideals we can strive towards, growing along spiritual lines as imperfect but with God as our Father, Director and Principal of our lives?   

Be sure your sex inventory and sex ideal are complete before you go into your 5th step.  This week is a good time to schedule your fifth step and to calendar the date sometime in the next few weeks. I will prepare you with everything you need to give your fifth step and to receive your step partners fifth step. Next week we will talk about how your step partner is a great person to do your fifth step with; but may not be the only person you can do your fifth step with. The important thing to keep in mind is that we want to do our fifth step with someone who understands what we are after; A deep and effective relationship with the God who can solve ALL your problems.... a God who will do for you what you cannot do for yourself. A god-reliant way of living, instead of a self-reliant way of living. A life of freedom, instead of a life of bondage to self.